1) Why do you want to become a good person? Why not a “bad” person?
What if your becoming a good person turns out to be harmful for you and for the people closest to you?
Why do you want to be a nice person? What is your motivation behind it? Is it because you want people to accept and respect you—to make you feel worthwhile, important, and that you are “someone”? If that’s the case, you’re no different than the millions of so-called “good” people around the world—people who no one remembers. Others only approach those who are in need of something. People who are used but not cherished. People who do not receive the recognition they deserve. And these decent individuals are frequently anxious, frightened, and in pain. Over time, these decent people age and die.
People who knew them remember them fondly: “He was such a kind man,” “So respectful,” “Very humble,” “Such a friendly, gentle soul,” and “A truly good person.”
They forget them forever.
So ask yourself: Do you want to be that kind of good person? Society consistently fosters this type of “goodness” because, even if a person isn’t good for themselves, they are always beneficial to society. Why? Because people like that never have the courage to offend society’s feelings. They would never dare to rebel for truth or justice if it meant going against society. They are willing to forsake their own principles if necessary. Do you want to be that “socially good” person?
If you’re wondering, “Abhi, what qualities do you believe a truly good person should possess?” Then let me explain…
A truly good person is first good to themselves, and only then to others. A genuinely good person doesn’t live just to survive — they live to enjoy life.
No matter how their life is, they find contentment in it. Such a person never deliberately hurts anyone. In fact, it’s often the unhappy and dissatisfied people who cause harm to others — mentally or physically. So whenever someone tries to hurt you emotionally or physically remember one thing: That person is already suffering. They are already unhappy and dissatisfied inside. Now ponder about this. What types of people do you love being around? Happy and content individuals, right? Nobody appreciates being around negative, unpleasant, or frustrated people. Such people are destructive not only to others but also to themselves. Frequently, they wind up endangering their own lives. When you are truly happy and fulfilled, you will automatically resist manipulating or harming others for personal benefit. In fact, the concept of hurting someone does not even cross your mind. And when you’re truly happy and pleased, it shows in your actions, words, and even how you walk. The people around you may sense your peacefulness. They instantly feel that no matter what happens, you won’t hurt them. That’s why they feel safe coming close to you without hesitation. So if you really want to become a good person, Start by keeping yourself happy and content. And you can only experience true happiness and contentment when you have two things:
Strength and Love.
So let’s now explore what exactly strength and love are —
And how they can help us become truly good and ideal human beings.
Strength
Many people give advise on how to become a better person. They say to be kind, humble, respect everyone, restrain your wrath, and listen to everyone calmly. But my suggestion to you for being a nice person is the following: Grow strong—
Whether it be physical, mental, or material strength. Without the necessary strength to be kind, humble, honest, and tranquil, others will perceive you as weak, even if they do not express it directly. People believe you’re being kind and humble because you’re weak. Observing your life and those around you, it’s clear that without physical, mental, or material strength, it’s impossible to create a positive impression on others, regardless of how you treat them. In fact, others may perceive you as a loser. Now, tell me. Whose influence do you succumb to most easily? Or, more generally, who influences the world? By a loser or by a powerful person? Let me clarify: I do not refer to kind, humble, and peaceful people as “losers.” But without strength, such people are always treated like losers. Without strength, you won’t just fail at becoming a good person — You won’t even be able to become a bad one. So, let’s now look at how to build and grow these three types of strength — Physical, mental, and material.
1) Physical Strength.
You probably already know what I’m going to say. You’re totally correct: it’s all about exercise, healthy nutrition, and sleep. I won’t go too much into this, but I’ll say one thing: exercise every day until your body screams and begs you to stop, saying: “Master, that’s enough…it’s too much!” The stronger your body, the more confident you will be.
2) Material Strength.
You are also aware of this one: money power and political influence. Many people rush after these two as if they had lost their senses. But you should not be one of them. Money and power aren’t everything in life, but they certainly make things simpler.
3) Mental Strength.
Mental strength is defined as the ability to tolerate significant unpleasant feelings for an extended amount of time, as well as the ability to deal with those emotions or negative situations calmly when they occur. Sometimes in life, there is no other option than to bear the unpleasant bad emotions. You’ve wasted all of your efforts and attempted every potential option, yet nothing seems to work. At that point, the only option is to keep pushing forward despite the emotional suffering. In such situations, it is your mental fortitude that allows you the courage to keep walking without stopping. Yes, the ability to endure emotional pain might earn you respect in others’ eyes, But let’s be clear — carrying negativity for long periods is not good for your body or your mind. Also, trying to always appear strong and not let yourself seem weak. Can’t be applied to every negative situation in life. Sometimes, that approach can be very harmful to you.
Mental strength is not just about “looking strong.”When we hear the word “mental strength,” we usually picture someone with a stern face, emotionless, extremely focused, who just keeps going no matter what. But let me make one thing clear —
Mental strength doesn’t mean suppressing your feelings while breaking down inside. It does not imply putting on a “I’m fine” face. And it is not about fighting every battle because you are afraid of appearing weak.
So, what is true mental strength?
It’s calm.
It’s gentler.
It’s all about honesty and flexibility.
It appears when you pause before responding. When you confront your inner turmoil rather than running away from it. When you say, “I need help,” and then accept it. Sometimes strength comes from crying, pausing, and starting afresh. In a world where busyness and burnout are worn like badges of honor, Your peace, your mindfulness, and your quiet ability to rebuild yourself —That is your real strength. So, you don’t need to act “tough.” You only need to be honest with yourself, again and again. Mental strength is already within you Not in the form of pressure, but in the form of present awareness. And the more you remember that, the unshakable you become.
Love
Humanity remembers notable artists, scientists, thinkers, social reformers, and athletes throughout history. Their labor, discoveries, and ideas continue to inspire the world. In reality, such people have overcome enormous challenges—challenges that the average person would never even consider in their wildest imaginations. However, these people had to deal with similar difficulties in their everyday lives. What power provided them the courage and motivation to face such adversity?
It was the power of love. This power of love made them captivating personalities capable of attracting and influencing millions. Even today, many such people influence our lives—we admire them, look up to them, and love them. To become a truly good and ideal person, you only need two things: strength and love.
If you only have strength but no understanding of love, you may end up exploiting the weak and uneducated for your own petty gain. On the other hand, if you know love but lack strength, powerful people will exploit you—and in such situations, it becomes difficult not only to protect others but even to protect yourself. That’s why, to become a good and ideal human being, you must possess both: love andstrength. When you begin to live and conduct in this manner, people will naturally gravitate toward you like magnets. Nobody will want to leave you. Wherever you go, people will follow. You’ll have to literally ask them, “Please, leave me alone for a while—I need to do my own work.” At that point, you’ll have to pick your friends wisely, because no one will want to leave you—because you’ll have actually become a good and ideal person.
If you’re a regular reader of BeingBloom.com, you’ve probably already realized the significance of emancipation, also known as mukti. You understand why it’s so important to ask yourself, “Who am I?” You understand how vital liberation is.
You’ve seen how people in this world suffer from low levels of consciousness—how they’re trapped in jealousy, hatred, envy, worry, fear, confusion, desire, ego, inferiority, sloth, mental and physical weakness. Many negative forces have taken over people’s life. Don’t you believe that as you and I get stronger—mentally and physically—on this journey of emancipation, your loved ones should also grow stronger? Shouldn’t clarity begin to penetrate their lives in the same way that it does ours? Shouldn’t they also comprehend what Maya (illusion) is and how it’s slowly hollowing out their lives? Do you feel the same way I do?
So go ahead and share your BeingBloom.com experiences with your loved ones. Allow them to experience the majesty and heights of this life. If you bring light into the lives of those suffering in agony and darkness, who is better than you?